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Do We Have To? Causes and Cure for a Decreased Sex Drive

Sex drive Dissipating?

He runs his finger tenderly down your arm and kisses your ear – a sure sign that he is interested in doing more in bed tonight than simply slipping off to sleep. While all women will, from time to time, find themselves less than eager to reciprocate their partners’ affections, if you are finding yourself increasingly disinterested in sex, there could be a problem to which you need to tend. Instead of ignoring the noticeable dip in your sex drive, hunt out the issue at the root of the problem and cure it, ensuring that next time your sweetie signals that he wants some TLC, you are more than eager to provide it.

Relationship Problems

The first thing you should consider when you find yourself losing your sexual longing is whether your relationship is all it could be. Quite commonly, if your relationship is in the midst of a rough patch, you will subconsciously respond to this by exhibiting less sexual desire. If you think your relationship could use some improvement, try couples counseling and, once all is mended, you will likely find your sexual desire levels making a rebound. If you feel that the root of your relationship problems is sexual in nature, try a more specific course of therapy treatments, seeking a sex therapist instead.

Mental Stressors

Your sex drive level is inversely proportional to your level of stress. If your stress levels are through the roof, you will, more commonly than not, not have a strong desire to engage in sexual activity. The only way to cure what ails you if this is the case is to tend to the stress in your life. If you are stressed about money, focus on getting your finances in order. If you have recently lost your job, concentrate on finding new employment. By dedicating yourself to these stress-curing tasks, you can likely decrease the amount of time that you find yourself with reduced sexual urges.

Health Problems

A plethora of health problems can leave you losing your longing to slip between the sheets with your partner. If, after consideration, you determine that relationship struggles or emotional challenges aren’t at the root of your loss of arousal, it’s time to make an appointment with your MD. Explain your problem to your doctor candidly and he will help you hunt down the culprit. Some common medical causes of lack of arousal include:

High cholesterol – A study reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that spiked cholesterol levels, something that can be easily tried with a healthy diet make over, can leave you uneager for sex.
Birth Control Pills – The hormones in some birth control pills wreak havoc on sexual desire levels. Particularly if you just recently changed your birth control and you have now found yourself less sexually eager, this is a likely cause.
Reduced Vaginal Estrogen – Particularly post menopause, you may simply have reduced estrogen levels that are leading to vaginal dryness, making sex not so much fun. This can be easily treated with vaginal creams.

A low sex drive isn’t something with which you have to simply deal. Instead, you can be proactive and work to rebound your sexual desire. By doing so, you can strengthen your bond with your partner, enjoy a physically loving connection and reap the physical pleasure associated with engaging in healthy and regular sex.

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