I Have it All… Now How Do I Juggle It?

To Have it all…

For many women, having it all is the ultimate, seemingly unattainable, dream. However, once they accomplish it — getting that dream job, finding the ideal spouse and producing some precocious and adorable offspring – they find that achieving this goal isn’t nearly as difficult as balancing it all once you have it all. If you are in the middle of a masterful juggling act, try out these tips as they may make it substantially easier for you to keep all of your balls in the air.

Don’t Neglect your Health

When you find yourself pulled in a million different directions, it can be tempting to put yourself on the back burner, skipping those exercise classes or grabbing quick-and-tasty food on the go instead of eating balanced meals. While these practices may save you time in the short term, in the long run neglecting your health could prove a disastrous decision. Your body will take this type of abuse for a while, but eventually it will rebel against you, forcing you to slow down or crash, likely at the most inopportune time.

Focus Your Efforts

While it is entirely natural for your mind to wander to the tasks you have waiting for you at home while you are at work, and vice versa, if you constantly give in to this tendency you will dramatically reduce your overall productivity. When you are at work, push home worries aside and you will be able to get your work done more rapidly, potentially even reducing the number of hours you end up spending on the job.

Prioritize

When you have so many items on your to do list that you feel it will soon swallow you whole, it can be difficult to decide which to tackle first, potentially leading you to abandon the list entirely and throw yourself a pity party on the couch, complete with ice cream. Instead of giving in to this temptation, become master of your list by learning to adeptly prioritize. After crafting your list of things to do, be it for home or work, rank each item from 1 to 5, assigning a 1 to the post pressing tasks and a 5 to those that can wait. This simple task will allow you to immediately narrow your focus, showing you exactly where you should start.

 

Stick to a Schedule – Usually

As you work to climb the corporate ladder you will likely find yourself putting in extra hours on the job. On occasion, a late night at work is simply a must; however, for the sake of your family, you shouldn’t allow every night to become a late night. Commit yourself to arriving home in time for dinner with your family at least four nights each work week. By doing so you can ensure that you have ample time to spend appreciating the family you so carefully built while still fulfilling your on-the-job duties.

The Life and Accomplishments of Ingrid Boulting

Ingrid Boulting; An Inspiration

It was not surprising that Ingrid Boulting came back to acting in 2006 for a role in the movie Conversations with God, a movie based on the inspirational, internationally-acclaimed books by Neale Donald Walsch. Achieving emancipating, mature spirituality, after all, has been one of Boulting’s life-long goals. In essence, the film was a symbolic culmination of this goal.

Like Walsch, Boulting has been on a quest for illuminating answers from an early age; the former sought guidance from God, the latter from life/nature and from within. Although most Hollywood celebrities get swallowed up by success, Boulting, after experiencing it, voluntarily gave it up for (as she prophetically says in the movie The Last Tycoon) “a quiet life” somewhere.

Career Achievements

Without question, Boulting has an extraordinary curriculum vitae. At a young age she (born: 1947 in Transvaal, South Africa) was drawn into the very artistically demanding world of ballet, to which she devoted over a decade of her life. Ballet then led to successful model, gracing the pages of magazines such as Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, Seventeen, London Life, Celebrity Sleuth, and countless others.

Dancing and Modeling

While dancing and modeling, she discovered the wonderful world of drawing/painting — crafts which she has pursued to this day. Apparently destined to delve into different areas of the fine arts, Boulting then discovered acting, first on stage and then in the movies. Amazingly, she went on to do a series of movies spanning over three decades: The Witches (1966); Inadmissible Evidence (1968); The Last Tycoon (1976); Deadly Passion (1985) among them.

The fact that Ingrid Boulting has had a successful career is indisputable, but that is not what sets her apart from other celebrities. In fact, some people (if they know who she is) may even label her success as “mediocre.”

The following facts, however, suggest otherwise:

  • Her pretty face being featured on hundreds of pages in major publications.
  • Co-acting with such Hollywood greats as Orson Wells, Olivia de Haviland, Robert DeNiro, Tony Curtis, Robert Mitchum, Ray Milland and Jack Nicholson.
  • Being a successful artist since 1993.
  • Being a knowledgeable yoga instructor.
  • Acting on stage, TV and films.
  • Offering sliding scale pricing for the financially disadvantaged at her yoga studio .

A Renaissance Woman

While famous actresses often develop bad reputations, Miss Boulting espouses and advocates a clean, healthy lifestyle that is respectful to all living things. In fact, as a Yoga instructor, she helps people get in tune with nature and discover ways to stay healthy without the use of artificial tools or methods.

Through her art work, Boulting shares beautiful creations on canvas, as those people who continue to buy her renditions can no doubt attest. Although she has not received formal art training, Boulting has been painting since she was a child. Her teachers, she says, are heavyweights like Michelangelo, Paul Cezanne, Gustav Klimt, Valesquez, John Singer Sargent, James Whistler and Jean Antoine Watteau; she was also guided by the museums she visited while growing up.

Ingrid Boulting the Entrepreneur

In addition to all her other “roles,” Ingrid Boulting has become a very astute entrepreneur. Proving that one does not have to become a slave to one’s profession (in her case, a Hollywood celebrity), Miss Boulting founded and runs her own successful business, Sacred Space Studio. This facility, located in Ojai, California, provides yoga classes and other services. Going by the client testimonials on her website, ingridboulting.com, it has become a haven for people looking for spiritual/physical healing and empowerment.

Above all, though, is Ingrid Boulting’s commitment to family — more specifically, her daughter, Cheyne Rose, for whom she sacrificed her career. Would anyone other than a loving mother do that? In a world where obtaining wealth, fame, and associations with powerful people seem to be popular goals, Boulting has proven that one can reach for worthier, more lasting things . . . and still become self-fulfilled, happy and financially successful!

Tips on Leaving an Abusive or Unhealthy Relationship

Many times, a woman who is in an abusive or unhealthy relationship may not even realize that she is actually in one, at least not for a while. Family, friends and coworkers will probably realize it first. Denial that your partner is behaving this way can last a long time. Then something happens and you know that your relationship is not at all what you thought it actually was. You begin to feel the fear of being around him even when he is not there.

Abusive Relationships

If you are a woman who is being abused verbally by hateful, mean or coercive words, are being physically beaten or hit, purposely kept financially broke so that you cannot go anywhere and are trapped at home and or sexually hurt, this behavior will only become worse over time. More and more power and control over most aspects of your life will make it so that this abuse will strengthen and escalate more often.

You may not be showing scars on the outside but there surely are ones on the inside. They come in the form of emotional pain such as helplessness and blaming yourself that decreases your self esteem rapidly into depression, low self worth and confusion. Being ashamed is a terrible feeling. You are not at fault for the horrible acts of another. It is your partner, not you.

How to Leave an Abusive or Unhealthy Relationship

When planning to leave an abusive or unhealthy relationship, planning the departure is the most single thing that you can do to make it successful. Make a list of everything that you will need to do to make the move as easily as possible for your children and you. These are really important things to do, especially if you are fearful.

  1. Document the abuse through pictures, phone recordings, videos, a daily diary and anything else you can think of.
  2. Save every penny you can get your hands on. Try to figure out the minimum amount needed for your children and you to be able to live on for a certain amount of time.
  3. Open a safety deposit box and begin putting all of these documents, other important papers and money in it. Update and add documents to your safety deposit box weekly. Make this a mandatory habit.
  4. Begin stock piling clothing at a friend’s or family member’s house. Protect yourself and your children as much as possible.
  5. Close old checking accounts and credit cards that your partner has access too. He will be less likely to be able to track you down.
  6. Get a P.O. box and have all bills sent to it.
  7. Change your cell number.
  8. Find a safe place to live. Research places that your children and you can stay. Have this issue settled before you leave. According to the MayoClinic.com, a woman’s shelter is a very safe place. Your abuser will not have access to it, especially if he is violent. If this is not an option, then stay with a family member or a friend that your partner is not very acquainted with and one that is a good distance away.
  9. Talk to someone. Visiting a therapist to help with all of these issues can increase your coping skills to where you can deal with your situation much better. If this is not possible, talk with a trusted friend or family member. At the very least, tell a friend that you are being abused. This is a good idea for safety measures, especially if the abuse is physically violent. You will feel so much stronger when you can verbally vent.

Abuse is a horrific behavior that no woman should have to endure. For the sake of your children and you, become proactive, plan your escape and get out into a safe environment where you can be live the life you deserve.

How to Grow with Changing Times and Your Teen

Changing Times and Your Teen

It’s okay. Everything’s okay… If you’re the parent of a teen, there’s a good chance that you’re feeling scared, confused, angry, guilty and sad about your relationship with your teen right now, so the most important message that we have to offer here is that everything’s okay. We can help you adapt to the changing times.

We Were all Teens Once, Remember?

The generational gap is very real, but it has as much to do with age as it does to do with the times. Right now your values look outdated to your teen, and their values look shallow to you. One of the most useful things that you can do for yourself right now is to think back to when you were a teen, or more importantly, to when you were a young adult, when you outgrew a lot of the things that your parents must have hated seeing you get involved in, when you started to understand your parents’ values a little better. Most importantly, you eventually grew up simply as a matter of course. Your parents couldn’t make you take your responsibilities more seriously no matter how hard they tried, you simply had to grow out of the short sighted, narrow interests we all tend to hold in our youth.

Kids Need Boundaries

Things are difficult right now and you need to set boundaries for your teen (and yes, these boundaries are just as important even when you know your teen will break them from time to time, because teaching consequences is an important part of being a parent), and you also need to provide them with security, with a place to come home to at the end of the day, a cushion to land on when they do make mistakes (and they will).

Part of being close with your teen right now is accepting that there is this gap, that your child is growing from a child into a young adult, and that they need to make their own path and make their own mistakes. That said, this doesn’t mean that you can’t still be both a parent and a friend to your teen.

Connect on Common Ground

You’ve been through this exact same kind of thing in a lot of relationships before with friends, spouses, family members: Simply trying to take an interest in what they take an interest in can be an enormous step forward. Their music might sound like crazy people banging on trash can lids to you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t findsome common ground somewhere. It could be a movie that you both like, a song that you both love, a book you’ve both read. Whatever that common ground is, no matter how small it may seem, it’s reason enough to start talking.

And that’s the heart of the solution: keeping up with the changing times, keeping up with your teen, is not a process that’s going to involve your picking up a bunch of hip magazines and trying desperately to figure out what the kids are into these days. As long as you stay roughly up to date on the technology and take the time to really talk with your teen at least once or twice a week, there’s very little fear of falling behind.

Genuine Interest leads to Genuine Relationships

There are no tricks, there’s no magic bullet, there’s no strategy that you can put into play here. It’s all about human closeness, it’s all about expressing real love and real interest and real caring. As long as you make an effort to listen, your teen will make an effort to talk.

8 Ways to Treat Yourself at Your Next Spa Appointment

Demands of modern life require a break

Women today are often overworked and overstressed. From the demands of holding down a career, and being a mother, to running a hectic household, and being an attentive wife, we all need to take the time to take care of ourselves.

One way to relax and unwind is to spend time at a local spa and enjoy all of the unique and wonderful ways they offer for us to pamper ourselves and relax. Nothing relaxes our bodies and refreshes our minds better than some “me time” at a local spa that offers a myriad of services made just for us. If you have never taken the time to explore the services that a spa has to offer, you are missing out on a treat.

Spas offer many soothing services

Here are some popular spa treatments you should reward yourself with as often as possible. Take advantage of these services that are made especially to pamper and spoil us – and be prepared to enjoy every second of it!

  • Massage – Massage is a good way to relax, unwind, and rid your body and muscles of unnecessary stress. Massage therapists offer different types of massages that can be customized to your needs including a Swedish, therapeutic, or deep tissue massage.
  • Body Wrap – This soothing treatment typically uses algae, seaweed, mud, or clay which are detox treatments that help rid the body of toxins. You are massaged with these treatments then wrapped for 20 minutes to keep you warm. Your body is then rinsed and then lotion is applied for super soft and smooth skin.
  • Facial – Facials are a popular spa treatment that cleans, exfoliates, and nourishes your face to promote clear, well hydrated skin. An esthetician analyzes your skin and picks the appropriate treatment for your skin type and conditions to ensure a perfect facial for you.
  • Pedicure – A spa pedicure is a procedure which cleans and removes the dead skin cells from the feet and nails. A spa pedicure is also combined with a foot massage that rejuvenates the feet and relaxes the muscles. The toenails are then painted with the color of your choice for totally sexy feet for strutting around in your new sandals or favorite pair of heels.
  • Manicure – A manicure is a beauty treatment for your fingernails that uses special tools, creams, and massage methods to make your hands and nails healthy and beautiful. A manicure will help improve the texture as well as health of your fingernails and the skin on your hands. Have them polished with your favorite color for beautiful hands every time.
  • Sauna – Sitting in a warm and soothing sauna is beneficial in many ways. Not only does a sauna help relax and distress you, it actually lower your blood pressure and eliminate toxins from your body and stimulates the function of other organs, too.
  • Waxing – Waxing is a very popular way women use for body hair removal. From leg and lip waxing to the ever popular Brazilian (bikini) wax, the process can leave you looking and feeling better about yourself. Special melted wax is applied to remove unwanted hair and generally lasts for 4 to 6 weeks before hair re-growth.
  • Scrubs – Nothing refreshes and rejuvenates like a body scrub at the spa. These gentle treatments can soften skin, draw out unwanted toxins that dull skin, and restore skin vitality. The body scrub is performed with an abrasive material like salt or sugar, and is mixed with massage oil and fragrant essential oils. This exfoliation process is followed by an application of body lotion for healthy looking skin that is radiant and soft to the touch.

Indulge yourself

No matter which spa service you decide to treat yourself to, you will be relaxed, refreshed, and look fabulous. So go for it ladies – relax and indulge yourself with these spa specialties, after all, you’re worth it!