Should We Rehearse Our Daily Conversations?

Daily Conversations Matter…

The old saying “It’s easier to plan for the battle after it’s already been fought” applies all too often to simple daily conversations we have. How often have you analyzed a conversation you had after the fact and thought of a better way to say something or a more effective way of making your point? We all do this to varying degrees. Knowing this, should we rehearse for our daily conversations ahead of time? The answer may depend on who you will be conversing with during the day and your core personality.

Men and Women Speak a “different language”

Research has confirmed what most of us already know men and women communicate differently. Women are dialogue oriented while men are action oriented. Women focus on feelings and emotions while men focus on fixing things. Of course, there are exceptions to these stereotypes, but they are accurate overall. The difference in approach between men and women when they talk often leads to confusion and frustration.

The idea of rehearsing your conversations with the men in your life may actually help eliminate some of the confusion and frustration. By rehearsing ahead of time, you can narrow down your point and figure out how best to express what you are trying to say in a way that will both capture your conversational partner’s attention and ensure that he understands what you want to accomplish by having the conversation.

Woman to Woman Talk is Easier

On the other hand, if your conversations will be with other women, the need to rehearse ahead of time may not be as pressing. Women speak the same language. We understand where the conversation is going, why the “touchy-feely” build up is important, and can often read between the lines much better than our male counterparts. Not only do we understand each other better when having a simple, non-confrontational discussion, but we also tend to handle confrontation and disputes similarly as well.

Heated Conversations

If you anticipate that the conservation may become heated, resolving the dispute will probably go much smoother if your are talking to a female than with a male. This is not to say that women are any better at handling verbal disputes than men, only that two women (or two men) stand a batter chance of resolving a verbal dispute than a woman and a man. Resolving a dispute, or finding a solution to a problem, is always easier when you clearly understand what the issue is, where the other person is coming from, and what they are trying to accomplish.

Studies Support Different Communication Techniques

Numerous studies support the basic premise that men and women communicate differently, but most of us don’t need a study to tell us this. If you think back to the last conversation that you found yourself over-analyzing and second guessing, the chances are it was with a man. Likewise, if you have ever found yourself planning ahead for an important conversation, it was also likely for a conversation with a man. Rehearsing ahead of time for daily conversations may be particularly helpful, therefore, if the conversations will be with a man.

Practice Makes Perfect!

Along with rehearsing daily conversations that you may have with the men in your life, you may wish to rehearse other daily conversations as well if you are someone who finds verbal communication to be stressful or intimidating. Both men and women can be social butterflies or quiet bookworms, with a wide range of communication styles in between. If you lean toward the quiet bookworm type, then spending a few minutes each day practicing for common social situations in which you will be expected to converse with strangers is a great way to put yourself at ease when you actually find yourself in one of those situations.

Hopefully your daily conversations will not resemble a battle; however, planning, practicing and rehearsing ahead of time for upcoming conversations is unlikely to do any harm, and may actually prevent a battle from erupting.

What You Must Know About Breast Cancer

Lifestyle Changes

Certain changes in your lifestyle can help prevent the onset of breast cancer. If you drink alcoholic beverages, your risk of breast cancer is increased; limit yourself to one alcoholic beverage per day. Being overweight also increases your breast cancer risk. This is especially true, if you gained this weight following menopause. Try to incorporate some strength training and aerobic exercise, doing so will help control your weight while improving your immunity.

Studies indicate, that breast-feeding your baby and discontinuing therapy with hormones, may offer some breast cancer protection.

The good news is four out of five biopsied breast lumps are ruled noncancerous. However, following up with your physician is vital. This is not something you should disregard just because your chances are good.

No Increased Risk for Those with Fibrocystic Breasts

Fibrocystic breasts are common and refer to breasts with thick tissue and lumps varying in size. This condition affects both of your breasts and causes breast discomfort or pain to occur close to the onset of menstruation each month.

Over half of all women have fibrocystic breasts sometime during their lives. There has been no link between fibrocystic breasts and an increased risk of breast cancer.
Breast Cancer and Birth Control Pills

Previously, contraceptives had higher doses of estrogen, which slightly increased the risk of breast cancer. That said there is no evidence that the oral contraceptives available today increase your risk for breast cancer.
Monthly Self-Exam, Necessary or Not


Women have continued doing self-exams every month, for years now. Although some physicians and organizations continue encouraging this practice, according to research done by the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF), existing evidence is inadequate to gauge the positives and negatives, as related to the monthly self-exams. Because of this, the USPSTF recommends continuing to encourage women to do self-exams on a monthly basis at home cease.

Mammogram Screenings

Mammography remains to be the best tool available to spot breast cancer during its early stages. The majority of women with breast cancer have no identified risk factors or family history of the disease.

The guidelines of the American Cancer Society call for women 40+ to have mammogram screenings every year. Whereas, a U.S. Preventive Services Task Force report from 2009, suggests that women begin having their mammograms at the age of 50. They also recommend the mammograms be performed every other year. If you do not know what you should do, talk with your physician and make your mammogram plan together.

The Early Symptoms of Breast Cancer

Breast cancer starts in a cell. That cell divides and then multiplies at an uncontrolled rate. This small clump of cancer cells cannot be felt yet. Breast cancer in its early stages, will usually be symptom free. A mammogram can actually detect the cancer prior to it being felt, which is why mammogram screenings are crucial. Some benign breast conditions may seem like cancer; that is why it is good to know what the difference is. Have a health care professional check any worrisome lumps for you.

Other Symptoms of Breast Cancer

The classic symptom is a lump in the armpit or breast. If you decide to continue doing breast self-exams, here are some things to watch for:

  • A lump or swelling in your breast
  • Swelling in your armpit
  • Pain in your nipple
  • Nipple discharge (bloody or clear)
  • Pitted or scaly skin on your nipple
  • Retracted or inverted nipple
  • Unusual breast discomfort or pain
  • Persistent breast tenderness

Don’t Hesitate to Seek Help Immediately

Should you have any of the symptoms listed above, do not hesitate to visit your physician. Even with the breast self-exam, a mammogram plan, based on your age, should be put in place by your physician. If you choose not to do your monthly breast self-exam, be sure you get your mammogram done, as is, recommended by your physician.